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Simplify: More than Minimalism and Shedding

Posted by Carolyn on
 August 7, 2024
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Recently, I had an opportunity to simplify a few things in my own life. With a volunteer term completed, I transitioned responsibilities over to my successor. Although still in a related volunteer role, I was relieved of a handful of duties. My calendar was emptier and my time freer. That’s when I realized that to simplify is more than simply shedding or trying to minimize the stuff in our lives. It is also a key step in getting and staying organized.

The Difference: Simplifying vs Sheddinglarge male deer with a 10 point rack of antlers

In the world of professional organizers, shedding usually means releasing or letting go. Just like male deer shed their antlers before the winter, and make room for a stronger rack to replace it, so do we shed items that no longer serve us. We let go of things we don’t use, like or need. Or sometimes to make room for something better.

Simplifying on the other hand, is more about making things easier. Processes get simplified to with less steps to make them easier, more manageable or shorter.

I once had a client who needed support decluttering and setting up an office after a move. In that process we also simplified the space and workflow so that everything the client needed to work with on a day-to-day basis was within arms reach, or certainly a short swivel chair swing (technical, organizer term “chair swing”) of her work space.

What About Minimalism?

Minimalism on the other hand, is about shedding a lot of things. It really answers the questions “how much can I do without?” or “how can I so more with as little as possible?”. Not everyone is happy to even attempt minimalist thinking or living.

Behind the Scenes

While it is true, having completed my volunteer position term, I was shedding duties and handing them to my successor. And that felt like simplifying things.

However, I had also been reviewing digital files and moving some to our shared online filing cabinet. While shedding the files in one part of the digital world, I was streamlining in another part.

The great part about shedding is it leaves space of new things. I now had time and space in my calendar and business life to refocus back to this blog, my newsletter and having some fun on social media.

Shedding, Simplifying and Organizing

It takes all three to get and stay organized. Try these tips to get you started:hat, coat and straw bag hanging on wall hooks

  1. Start with shedding. Be the deer in late fall and shed what no longer serves you, what will hinder your progress in your goals or what you no longer use.
  2. Once the shedding is done, how can your work flow or processes be simplified? How can steps be reduced to accomplish the same goal. For one client, I simply mounted 2 removable hooks on the wall beside the outside door of the kitchen. One was for her daughter’s lunch bag the other was for the coat.  These hooks completely simplified the “what to do with the lunch box/coat” after school. She would simply move the hook up as her daughter grew.
  3. Finally, ensure that each item has a home. This home needs to be easy to access (retrieval) to easy to put the item back (storage). When storage and retrieval are easy, you’ve likely simplified and will be able to stay organized.
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Tags : Children, clothes, home office, minimalism, organizing strategies, simplify

Children’s Behaviour when parents exhibit Hoarding Behaviour

Posted by Carolyn on
 September 10, 2014
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A friend and colleague recently contacted me regarding behaviour she had seen in one of her contacts.  She poses an interesting question and I thought you all might be interested.

VB writes: Is Hoarding in the genes? Have you ever seen young children hoard? In a family I recently worked with, one of the children cried and was very upset when his Dad sent a couple of pieces of furniture to the curb hoping someone would pick up for free.! (The aunt is a “collector” and another aunt shows evidence of hoarding behaviour.) Dad is worried about his child. He understands not wanting to part with toys, but furniture? Any thoughts or advice for this situation?”

Here is my response: Although there is much work currently being done with children of those with hoarding behaviour,  I am not aware of any definitive research on the genetic link for hoarding behaviour. We do know, however, that individuals with chronic disorganization, of which hoarding behaviour is a subset, personify objects and have unusually high emotional attachment to objects. These charact traits I see in the children of my clients all the time.

In the absence of a psyche degree, we as organizers ought not to be trying to remove or change those traits but there are tried and true techniques for managing them so the impact of the traits is not harmful. My fear is that this child has now been emotionally impacted – which he/she will remember long after the furniture is gone – and carry forward to other objects preventing him/her from healthy separation in the future.

Try this:
1. Let the child “say good-bye” to the furniture just like they would a friend.
2. Take a picture as part of the goodbye process and create an agreement on how long the picture hangs around.
3. Help the child understand the furniture needs a new home that can use it better. It will have new life with its new family.
4. Help the child understand objects have a natural life cycle with us. We need/ desire, they come, we use/love/use up, they leave (donation/ sale/recycle/garbage), they have a new life.

I’d be interested in hearing from others on similar experiences to VB.

Organizing Challenges
Tags : Accumulation, Children, Clearing Clutter, Client Questions, organizing strategies, Understanding disorganization

Making Fun of Road Trips

Posted by Carolyn on
 May 20, 2013
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In my part of the world, central Canada, this weekend celebrates the first of our precious, summer Long Weekends.  Victoria Day weekend is a traditional time for planting annuals, opening cottages and generally getting out and about on bikes and in cars.  So Canadians – Happy Victoria Day weekend!

If you are going to be using your car this summer for travel, whether long distance or short haul, now is a good time to organize your vehicle to ensure it is ready to hit the road when you are.  Here is a short list to get you started:

  1. Ensure your vehicle is up to date with service.  Are you up to date with all the recommended service for your vehicle, especially the safety-related items?  Have your breaks been checked and/or serviced recently?  How about the air conditioning and do your windows all work? Are all the fuses functional and lights/alerts working?  Have you checked your tire pressure lately?
  2. Fill up the windshield fluid and keep a top up bottle handy.  Keeping your windshield free of bugs, especially Friday and Sunday night driving to and from the cottage, is a safety strategy.  Ensure your field of vision is clear and clean at all times.
  3. Keep your car clean to ensure all lights are clearly visible during the day or night.  Car lights are another safety feature. With the dust and mud that often comes with cottage, off road or even highway driving, lights appear dim and are less visible.  Ensure you can be seen at all times.
  4. Ensure your vehicle ownership and current insurance are available to you while you are travelling.  Don’t make the mistake I did and end up with a $65 fine because the current insurance certificate is sitting at home in the filing cabinet.
  5. Clear the garbage and vacuum out winter debris.  Nothing says road-trip-buzz-kill faster than jumping into a car and finding yourself stepping on last February’s disposable coffee cup or the kids fish snacks in the back seat.  You could splurge on car detailing, stop by the service centre industrial vacuum or just pull out your own household vacuum and give your four-wheeled baby a good once over.
  6. Clean the inside of your windows.  Heating and air conditioning in cars often leaves a film on the inside of the windows which can impact how well you see out, especially on a summer day driving into the sun.
  7. Install a garbage box/bag or other container.  Since you’ve just cleaned out the vehicle, why not set it up to stay clean.  Keeping a garbage bag in the car will go a long way to making your regular clean-out faster and easier not to mention keeping today’s disposable coffee cup away from your feet.  Many automotive parts suppliers also carry garbage bins made especially for the rear seats.  Maybe this is the year you invest in one for your back seat crowd.
  8. Check the date on your maps and update if necessary.  Car maps are something we often take for granted – until you realize the road you are looking for wasn’t constructed when your map was printed.  If you prefer the modern GPS technology, ensure yours is updated so it can find that same road you were looking for on the old map.  Consider keeping a map in the car even if you have a GPS; technology does fail.
  9. Check your first aid kit.  Does it need replenishing?  Does it exist?  No one ever plans to need a first aid kit.  Plan to have a good one ready when your unexpected need arises.
  10. Consider travelling with a car box/supply box.  You can call this what you will and, based on your regular travel, it may be big or small.  This is where the “keep the kids busy” activities can reside along with the extra napkins, flashlight (check the batteries) candle and matches.  A strong box with a snap-shut lid will ensure the contents stay inside when not needed and stay clean while stored.  A box is also easy to take out of the car for replenishing and cleaning.

You may have other specific items to check depending on whether you use roof racks or have towing requirements.  This 10 item list will get you started and ensure your road trip is more enjoyable.

Organizing Travel
Tags : Accumulation, Car, Children, Clearing Clutter, Lists, managing mess, organize the car

Time Tamer Tuesday – Save the Size

Posted by Carolyn on
 August 7, 2012
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Children’s feet grow very quickly.  Next time you walk past a shoe store with your child, pop in and have his/her foot measured.  When your mom calls to say she found some great children’s shoes on sale she would love to buy for your children, you’ll know exactly what size to tell her to buy.

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Tags : Children, Time Management, Time Tamers

The Birthday Party

Posted by chrisjanes on
 April 25, 2012
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We just celebrated my son’s birthday with a big party at an indoor carnival. Despite having the party outside of our home, there was still a lot to do. Most importantly, you have to start planning early. These venues are booked far in advance of the actual celebration. So, what do you need to consider when scouting around for a party location? Here are a few things you will want to keep in mind:

· Is there a dedicated party room?
· Is there a sink in the room?
· Will you have to share the space with other patrons?
· Is food provided, or do you need to supply your own?
· Will you have access to a fridge?
· Will there be a staff member assigned to look after your party guests?
· Where are the washrooms?
· Is there somewhere for coats, presents and loot bags to be safely stored?

Answering these questions will let you know if you’ve found the right place for your party and exactly how much will be left for you to sort out before the big day.

Organizing Time
Tags : Children, Schedule, Time Management

Unplug for the Holiday Season

Posted by Carolyn on
 November 17, 2010
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I recently had an opportunity to appear on Breakfast Television (checkout photo #16) speaking on unplugging kids after the summer.  Many parents are increasingly aware of the amount of screen time their children have over the course of a day.  Think about it: TV, computer (in school, at home), IPOD, cell phone.  Add in there a movie or attempts to look up a reference at the library and a modern teenager could easily rack up over 6 hours of screen time without even trying (2 hours TV, 2 hours homework, 1 hour total IPOD, 1 hour total cell phone).  Considering the kids are only awake for 16 – 18 hours and are in school for 6.5 hours, that’s a big chunk of their day.

Here are a couple of tips to get you started thinking about how to help your teenager control their screen time:

  • As unpopular as it seems, turn off the email alerts and FB or other social media while they are doing homework.  Multitasking has been shown not to be effective and it will take them longer to get the homework done (more screen time).  Instead, encourage your teen to take regular breaks when they can check in on the pack.
  • Insist that your teen take their cell phone out of their room at night and plug it in to charge elsewhere in the house.  This strategy is also helpful to get them up in the morning since that phone will give a snapshot of the pack status for the day as soon as they check their texts/BBM or whatever.
  • If it isn’t already, consider moving your family computer to a public place.  The worst place for a teen to use a computer is in their room.  They will stay up until all hours.  This is not a life skill worth learning.
  • Help your younger teens book physical activity during the week that requires a disconnect from a screen.  Clearly this type of direction gets harder as the kids get older but once the pattern is set, and they have a habit of regular activity, they have learned a life skill that is worth hanging on to.
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Tags : Children, Teenagers, Unplug

Car Crazies

Posted by Carolyn on
 May 31, 2010
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It’s that time of year again: holiday trips, cottage weekends, camping excursions.  They all involve loading the gear, the kids and sometimes the dog/cat/hamster/fish into the family car and heading off down the highway. Here are a couple of tips to keep all that stuff organized so you can relax, enjoy the view and arrive ready for your time away.

  1. Take only what you need, clear out the rest – Before you pack the car, clear out all the debris that you don’t need for the trip.  You’ll have more space for yourself and your family, more room for your holiday/weekend gear and less clutter to manage.
  2. Contain, contain, contain – Try and get everything into a container whether it is a bag or box.  Try a laundry hamper for last minute items.  It is also great for bathing suits and towels.  You can even bring them back wet in the hamper after your last dip in the lake.
  3. Give the kids a container – Assign each  child a container for their car entertainment such as books, electronics, games and snack if you permit eating in your car.  It will help keep the bits together so you are less likely to hear ‘Where are my earphones?” when you get to your destination.  A container that closes is even better – kids aren’t so careful when tossing things around the car and again, bits are less likely to get lost or broken.
  4. Mom’s/Dad’s bag – If you have small children who are not yet happy to sit plugged into their electronics for hours on end, consider sticking a couple of special activity treats into your own bag.  You will be the hero when you pull out the special glittery markers halfway into your trip.
  5. Pack Snacks – Unless you and your children get car sick, you are likely going to need some food and/or drink before your trip is over.  Food can be expensive on the road.  While your vacation food may be packed into the cooler in the back of your vehicle, consider packing a smaller day cooler which can be easily accessed by your or your children.  Drinks in containers that won’t spill, fruit, dried fruit and nuts all make great travel snack.

Buckle up, stay safe and have fun!

Organizing Travel
Tags : Car, Children, family trip, Teenagers, Travel

Getting the Kids “To Do’s” into “Got Done”

Posted by Carolyn on
 October 19, 2009
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If you have school age children you are very familiar with agendas, projects, dictation, reading lists and the myriad of tasks that come home for the children to accomplish. You probably even monitor that your children sit down and do homework each evening in order to get through the list. Maybe you go as far as to check that they have the due dates in their agendas.

Have you ever taught them how to write the To List so that it gets done?

Try teaching your children to write their To Do’s with action verbs up front. For example:

“Project Outline” becomes
“Write rough copy of project outline”.

The task is clear and limited. You will both know what needs to be done and when it got accomplished.

Organizing Students
Tags : Children, homework, Lists, Students

The O-C Connection

Posted by Carolyn on
 May 13, 2009
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.. And we are not talking Orange County here folks.

This is “end of year” season. The concerts, open houses, school events, choir performances, track meets are coming at me at such a fast pace my online calendar and handheld device can barely keep up.

Oh, that’s right. It’s May again. I should have known. It happens every May and September.

Sound familiar? When events collide all at once to load up our scheduling demands that “O” word often creeps into our vocabulary – Overwhelm.

Counter with with “C” word – control. The more control you can muster the more easily you will glide through this maze of events like an organizing time professional. Anticipation will help with the control. Look out to the next couple of weeks and see what’s coming. The more you can anticipate the less likely things will catch you off guard and the more likely you are to feel in control.

Follow up with the “R” word – Relax. This too will pass. Summer is coming. And beside, the kids will only be young once. Enjoy.

Home Organizing
Tags : Children, Family Manager, Time Management

The Ten Minute Challenge

Posted by Carolyn on
 May 11, 2009
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The ten minute challenge is one of my favourite organizing techniques. It’s great for getting kids involved in a daily clean up and when used regularly, is highly effective at keeping one’s home organized.

Give each person in your home a bag – the new recycled shopping bags are great for this. Let everyone know they have 10 minutes to fill their bag with items that are not in their homes and need to return to wherever that home is.

A common variation on this strategy is to fill the bag with items that the individual is no longer using, no longer wants, fits etc. This is a great way to show children that items we are finished with can be cleared out regularly and passed on to other children.

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Tags : Children, managing mess, mess, organizing strategies
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